The festive season often brings images of connection, joy, and celebration. We may envision people gathered around tables filled with food, children laughing as they unwrap presents, and friends raising glasses in cheer. However, this time of year can evoke mixed emotions for people with life-limiting illnesses. The holidays may remind us of things lost—the energy and health to participate how we used to—and of an uncertain future.
This can be incredibly challenging for loved ones who want to bring joy into these precious moments while also respecting the realities of palliative care. Being present for someone in palliative care during the holidays is about offering time, love, and understanding. It’s about creating meaningful experiences, no matter how small, that honour where they are in this life stage.
Here are some ways we can be there for those with extra challenges this season and bring the season's warmth in a manageable and comforting way.
1. Adapt Traditions
Traditions can be an essential part of this time of year, but it's important we adapt them to the energy levels of those around us. Instead of organizing a family dinner, consider a few small festive treats to share quietly. This could be anything, from favourites to a small dish from a traditional holiday meal. For those somewhere less familiar this year, like a rest home or hospital, decorating with a few favourite ornaments can also bring familiarity and festive spirit into the space.
Another idea is to have a small holiday tree that fits on a bedside table with simple decorations. These gestures can make a big difference in ensuring we all feel part of the season, even if this may look slightly different this year.
2. Share Quality Time
Time is the most meaningful gift we can offer. Simply being there, without any pressure or expectation, can be deeply comforting. This may look like watching a favourite holiday movie, reading a beloved story aloud, or just sitting and talking. Letting others guide the activity—whether chatting about memories, listening to music, or even sitting quietly in shared silence — shows that you value them and their presence.
Often, the small, seemingly mundane moments carry the most significance. Sharing a warm cup of cocoa, laughing over a silly memory, or watching twinkling holiday lights can be a beautiful way to cherish those around us.
3. Offer Practical Help
The holiday season can bring its own set of stressors. Offering practical help can be an easy and compassionate way to relieve pressure. Tasks like wrapping presents, writing holiday cards, or organising virtual gatherings for those who cannot attend in person may make a big difference. This helps them feel involved in the festivities despite the physical limitations
they may be facing.
Consider arranging a video call if they have family or friends they’d like to see but can’t visit. Facilitating these connections can mean a lot.
4. Be Emotionally Available
The festive season can amplify feelings of grief, loss, or sadness. Acknowledging these emotions rather than trying to sweep them under the rug is important. Creating safe spaces for people to express their feelings and listen without judgment can provide immense comfort.
Let them lead the conversation. Some days, they may want to talk about old memories, while others may not feel like talking at all—both are okay. Being emotionally available means accepting whatever they need without trying to “fix” things.
5. Celebrate the Present
While many things may change in the face of a life-limiting illness, focusing on what we can do today helps ground us in the present—celebrating the small victories—enjoying tea together, hearing a child’s laughter, or watching a favourite show. These moments, though small, are precious. They remind us that there is still joy, even during the most challenging times.
Palliative care is ultimately about comfort, connection, and making the most of the remaining time. By adapting traditions, sharing quality time, offering practical help, being emotionally available, and celebrating the present, you can make this holiday season meaningful for both of you.
For more insights on supporting those around you during the holidays, visit our helpful guide or contact us for further support.
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